Receiving a late-diagnosis of autism or ADHD can bring both relief and a sense of validation. Finally, you have an explanation for the challenges and differences you've experienced throughout your life! However, alongside this newfound understanding, it's not uncommon to encounter another hurdle: Imposter Syndrome. Imposter syndrome refers to the persistent feeling of inadequacy or fraudulence, despite evidence of competence or success. You might be asking yourself questions such as, "do I really have autism (or ADHD)?", "maybe I need a second opinion?", or even, "what if I faked my symptoms because I want it to be true?!"
The question is, why do we feel this way sometimes and how can we overcome this feeling?
Imposter syndrome is actually a common phenomenon that affects individuals from all walks of life. It's characterised by persisting self-doubt, a fear of being exposed as a fraud, and a belief that you are underserving of your achievements or that they were achieved through luck. For individuals diagnosed with autism or ADHD, imposter syndrome can manifest in unique ways, as they may internalize societal stereotypes and misconceptions about their conditions.
Right after a late-diagnosis of autism or ADHD, individuals may feel a myriad of different feelings such as relief, happiness, anger and sadness. These feelings may come all at once or at different stages. I like to call it a "grieving period" as you mourn for 'the person you used to be' and that even though it's such a relief that you received the diagnosis, you're also hurt and upset because it took so long and have gone through a lot of pain to get to this stage. Added to these overwhelming feelings is the Imposter Syndrome that can trigger as people may question whether they are truly "autistic or ADHD enough". These negative feelings can eventually reduce self-confidence and self-esteem in the long-run.
Imposter Syndrome isn't an official diagnosis but many high-achievers and individuals brought up in competitive environments may suffer from it. Perfectionistic traits and children who were pressured by their parents or family to achieve high academic scores may be the biggest causes of imposterism.
How can we overcome imposter syndrome? Firstly, it's important to challenge the societal stereotypes that caused it in the first place. Reflect on how you used to think autistic and ADHD people were like before you were diagnosed. Did you have a negative view on the conditions before you knew about what they really were?
Secondly, thoroughly embrace the concept of neurodiversity and educate yourself about your condition. We need to remember that autism and ADHD are not solely defined by deficits or the limitations you may read from your report but also by unique strengths and abilities. Your diagnosis is valid, and your experiences, the good and the bad, are real, regardless of how they compare to others' perceptions or expectations.
Thirdly, try to develop a strong support network and connect with individuals who share similar experiences and who can provide empathetic understanding. Seek out autism or ADHD support groups, both online and offline, where you can share your journey, learn from others, and receive validation and encouragement.
Finally, take time to write down a list of you strengths and achievements. Celebrate even the smallest of wins and know that bad feelings will always pass. Some people may benefit from practicing mindfulness or journaling. However, sometimes these tips can only do so much before you realise it is affecting your mental wellbeing. In this case it is important to seek a professional such as a therapist or counsellor and especially one that commits to neuro-affirmative practice. Anxiety and depression are commonly co-diagnosed with autism and ADHD.
Imposter syndrome, while common after receiving a diagnosis, is an annoying and challenging experience. Always remember that your diagnosis does not define your you or your abilities and know that you are not alone in feeling like this.
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